I stand at a unique time in my life, when as I've been told by some of the greatest minds of our community "to find myself and do me?" Is it not my right to expect the same adoration for time spent in the gym to "want to be healthy" and of my mind for my sexual desire?

 

Tyrannical sex ,
What have I been missing out on ?

Can't answer , never known or experienced sex with a tyrant , or anyone who has.
Never even known a tyrant.

 

Would that be like BONDAGE?
Or master/slave?

 

If it involves hurting someone yes its wrong

 

She means no harm but the stronger I get, the more she can't even imagine the BEAST in me raging to ravage a willing soul!

 

So what you are saying is that there is one or more people you are desperate to fuck but the Mrs isnt up for letting that happen?

 

I think we should tie @Milo Cronos to a chair. Bring in 5 of the finest muscular gym nuts with raging hormones and let them treat his lady to a good time. Who's first in line?? I wonder if she would get wet?? Before you get heated I'm only messing with you.

 

Actually no that's planning which to me is the most devious of all the reasons how a spouse cheats and I know others will feel that there's only one reason or way cheating happens? The underlying motives are similar or may be the same, but in the case of me I don't pursue particular women. What changes is rather then immediately divert or dismiss a compliment in defense of my monogamy, there just comes a time when it feels right and I compliment back. In the past I agree that I put myself in situations that were very female friendly like dance clubs and bars, this time it's a matter of "if it's meant to happens it will?" I'll explain the majority of my present conundrum in my faith of monogamy in a separate post to others like @slutwolf

 

Knowing your still desirable by your husband without a fraction of any resolve as to my feelings on the subject, knowing I could cheat why when we could just "talk it out logically?"

 

CARDS ON THE TABLE: I am in a unique position that by November will open up my website dedicated to Health, Strength, Conditioning and Nutrition with multi sponsors from my years in this business. In that time starting from where "I need to be at my best" the conundrum is "at my best" means that my testosterone goes through the roof! Perfect nutrition and no training method or supplement left to chance ALL SCIENCE will over the next 5 years produce the 220 pound behemoth I've desired, in a sexually repressive environment?

Remember this includes more time from the home networking with males and females in all catagories and I'm still coming home to "Ahh maybe sex tonight?" I need her to admire the work and try to meet it if only half way? I want my wife and whomever hasn't gotten that "the last thing I need now is a mistress" is either blind or just refuses to see! I love Lil' Donna and she knows that cheating is "what will happen" not "what I planned" whether others cannot accept it!

 

If you'd stop stressing her the hell out about health and getting in shape and wanting her to be this woman she isn't you may get more fucking sex!!!! That just kills me it's cool to want to be in shape that is your choice but let her be herself and do as she wishes. It's her life. I know you care blah blah but it's her choice!!!!!! Maybe she just don't feel up to it.

 

Right on!! Just fuck the girl she is and stop taking no for an answer Milo...............rather than competing with her on a playing field that you know she cannot compete with!!

Now Sweetie??

thinskin

 

I'll just play with my tits.

 

I have read this thread and thought about it for a few hours. I need to confirm my understanding.

Are you saying, @Milo Cronos, that you feel that your sex life is being subject to tyranny because the woman with whom you most prefer to have consensual sex does not want to have as much sex as you, as frequently as you, with you?

I cannot relate to that feeling because I do not believe that a person can have romantic love for another without a mutually satisfying sex life. You have posted a multitude of threads on this theme for the 3 years I have been a member. It seems to me that the tyrant is you, since you are continually choosing to remain in the situation about which you repeatedly complain. You are your own jailer. (That is the theme of the play "No Exit" by the French philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre.)

In your defense, I can only say that US society is highly pro-female / anti-male regarding consensual sex. It is highly unacceptable here to put moral pressure on a woman to engage in, or guilt her into, consensual sex. There is little here in the US to convince women that the requirement of sexual fidelity comes with the obligation for sexual availability. ("Alienation of affection" used to be grounds for divorce.) You wrote that you had a plan to relocate to the Netherlands. Other parts of the world, such as many European countries, have a different sexual culture that includes sexual obligations to one's romantic partner. Hurry up! Move to someplace where your physical expression of love, including sex, will not be rejected so thoroughly as it seems to be for you here in the US.

 

With respect all this still seems like a very long winded way of saying that since your wife is giving you the sex you want or feel you deserve then you want to look elsewhere.

 

Despite what you may think of my motives a person who truly loves another is not going to stand idly by (as too many do) and let the person they love fall into a permanent state of disrepair. Where the most mundane tasks such as climbing stairs, taking walks and mild rises in activity such as going on long shopping trips with my granddaughter (something she enjoys) are tiring and painful. Sex would be a great side effect, but the stress she feels doesn't come down to me as I was asked by her to help and still working with her with promising results. You'll pardon me if I hope that sex becomes the last thing she puts off all the time because of her detriment to her own health?

 

I am not sure exactly what you mean Milo. Do you mean Tyranny as in wanting sex with the person you love and not being allowed to or feeling not in control of your sexual urges or something else

 

Having been on the receiving end of cheating, I don't think there is any reason for cheating in a marriage. If sowing wild oats is the goal, then the answer is clear. Being single is the way to go. Be forewarned though, the time not spent with someone else will be spent in an empty home.

 

As far as being categorized as "complaining" I've have only been reaching out in times of frustration and wrong thought? As you say you've read me for 3 years, but yet I haven't cheated so evidently those who care and luckily! That I've been in contact with these people over time have helped me get through it (you know who you are?) This isn't and I have never claimed a matter of frequency or denial of sex beyond a basic need, meaning this is not about something as menial as a lack of anal, oral, threeways, etc; more just a desire for the basic dignity of a healthy sex life with the woman I married. By getting her in a condition of G.P.P. (general physical preparedness) ie; better health for a better life, oh how selfish am I?

I am my own jailor, but if I wouldn't do it for my love rather then take the easy way out who might I do it for and remember this is the woman I want to be with in Amsterdam. A place (as you know) where walking and biking are the usual modes of transportation, so who wouldn't want make sure they couldn't enjoy it together with the asset they've held dear for over 33 years of their life?

 

Yes the tyranny I feel is not one of Lil' Donna's design personally, just the state of issues under which the commitment of remaining true without question is (at times) very difficult? Thank you for understanding